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[karenor]

my dad just got finished giving me the 'don't you think its time you met a nice jewish boy and got married' speech. because hey, 24=not a spring chicken. my mother, who is 44 today, btw, was married five years with a 4 year old and a 2 year old by the time she was my age. my dad thinks its high time i worked on that. saying i could easily have a child as cute as my nephew (uh, thanks dad). so if you do the math, you'd figure out that my parents will have been married 35 years this year (in november). that's a long time. even if i got married like today, by the time i'd be married 35 years i'd be near 60. but i'm not getting married today or tomorrow or next week or next year, so...

tho i want kids, i don't really want a husband. i'm just not interested in sharing my life with someone that way. does that make me weird? but i can't really have a kid sans husband, my fam is not the type to understand that sort of thing. no way.

anyway, my dad has distracted me from my work, and i really must start.

oh, and for my roswell watchings (all two of you, one of which hasn't been around), i now have a dupes background on my desktop and it makes me indesribably happy every time i see it.

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[about-worth.livejournal.com]

wow, my parents never give me a deal like that. in fact, they tell me if you don't find the right guy, then don't get married. don't get married just because it's the "normal" thing to do. it's actually very nice.

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[karenor.livejournal.com]

it's mostly my dad, and mostly when i complain about living at home. (you wanna move out, get married is his philosophy) it really bugged him when i moved out at 19 to live with two guys, neither of which i planned on marrying, threw him for a loop, so now that i'm back, he thinks he can start all over...

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[about-worth.livejournal.com]

ahh...yeah, dads seem to be more the type to push the kids out of the nest, from what i've seen in other people's cases.

[alannahrose.livejournal.com]

I shut my parents up about that for a while when I lived with my gay roommate, but then as soon as we moved apart, it started up again. Honestly since I've been with Chris they're even worse about it then they were when I wasn't dating! They want me to marry Chris SOOOO badly. It's sad. I'm still not sure when I'll be ready to get married...I spent most of my life being absolutely positive that I would be single until I died (which was fine with me) and then I spent a good 3 years being absolutely positive that I was a lesbian. So who knows what will happen next. But NOOOO babies for me.

Can you post a pic of your desktop? I'm so curious! And I haven't forgotten about the Is/Volandra dupes icon I was planning on making you. I feel so bad that I haven't made it yet. Sorry!

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[karenor.livejournal.com]

yeah, i'm pretty sure i'm gonna be single forever. you know, you have to do whats good for you. screw parents. buy why no babies?

don't feel bad, any time is a good time for vilandra. i have to like stop myself from drooling at my background.

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[alannahrose.livejournal.com]

Ack, I thought I spelled Vilandra wrong. Where's blue when you need to be reminded of correct Roswell spellings? Heh.

No babies because...so many reasons. Seriously, like 100 reasons. Most importantly, I would never willingly bring someone into this world in the sorry state it's in. Second most importantly, there's no way I would put my body through that. Third most importantly, I am not willing to sacrifice myself for another being like that. Yeah, throw me to the lions, 'cause I'm really "selfish" like that. I knew from the age of 5 that I never wanted kids.

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[karenor.livejournal.com]

that's cool, if you no it's not for you. but putting your body thru it? that's what they're made for...

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[alannahrose.livejournal.com]

but putting your body thru it? that's what they're made for...
I so disagree. Have you heard about the lovely incision they have to make in your privates so the baby can come through? The hole is not big enough! :m (pukey face)

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[karenor.livejournal.com]

well...that's only sometimes, as i understand. i'm not saying it's pleasant...

[about-worth.livejournal.com]

hey, sorry to interrupt the convo, but i've heard that there are water borth techniques where you deliver the child in warm water. the baby swims to the top, adjusts to the new world more naturally, and there's less tearing involved for the mother.

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[karenor.livejournal.com]

my friend debbie who is like six mos along is investigating water births. i hear they are less painful, but i kinda doubt it. i know i've been in pretty much the ultimate pain before, so i think i could handle it. not that i ever think i will have a kid, but i kinda want one..

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[about-worth.livejournal.com]

i want one after hanging out with an awesome little girl named Sara...ugh!!!! so freaking adorable it's insane!

but yeah, gotta find the man first...